[4:43:36 PM] BLG: Hello
[4:44:42 PM] Bela's Sister: Hi
[4:45:03 PM] Bela's Sister: all OK? I sent mum that lounger, if you'd be kind enough to help her assemble it?
[4:45:25 PM] BLG: I know. She is pretty stressed out about it.
[4:45:58 PM] Bela's Sister: I will call her now and ask her why she is stressed out about it
[4:46:54 PM] BLG: Don't she is on a knifes edge, has had a terrible flood with the storms here. He stress is that she has nowhere to put it.
[4:47:09 PM] Bela's Sister: the garden
[4:47:24 PM] BLG: That is what I said.....
[4:47:26 PM] Bela's Sister: that's why I bought a hard wood one and explained that it could go
[4:47:27 PM] Bela's Sister: in the garden
[4:48:04 PM] Bela's Sister: the cushion folds up
[4:48:14 PM] Bela's Sister: and can go on top of the tumble drier
[4:48:23 PM] Bela's Sister: no stress to be had
[4:48:42 PM] BLG: Your mileage may vary.
[4:48:58 PM] Bela's Sister: ?
[4:49:11 PM] Bela's Sister: I'll talk to her about it
[4:49:35 PM] BLG: There is not room as she had to empty the Volvo into the extension.
[4:49:48 PM] Bela's Sister: look
[4:49:57 PM] Bela's Sister: for fuck's sake, we are talking about a foldable cushion
[4:50:05 PM] Bela's Sister: if it is too much
[4:50:09 PM] Bela's Sister: I will cancel it
[4:50:12 PM] Bela's Sister: and she can send it back
[4:50:21 PM] Bela's Sister: as far as I'm concerned she can leave it outside
[4:50:52 PM] Bela's Sister: I'd be happy if somebody bought me a harwood lounger that can go... in the garden.... where it fucking belongs
[4:51:20 PM] Bela's Sister: so I will call her and see why there is a problem - she seemed pleased when I spoke to her earlier
[4:52:06 PM] BLG: Dear [Sister], I agree. You have the best intentions - you really do, but because of your life pressures, you can buldoze a bit. And when she doesn't answer your calls I am the one enduring drunk and angry answermachine messgages.
[4:52:34 PM] Bela's Sister: you are annoying me. What have I bulldozed by buying her a lounger
[4:52:45 PM] Bela's Sister: she always said she wished she had one when she saw mine
[4:53:09 PM] Bela's Sister: anyway, I AM going to talk to her about it and see if she thinks i've BULLDOZED her
[4:53:10 PM] Bela's Sister: bye
[4:54:02 PM] BLG: I don't mean to annoy you. I told you she didn't want one. Don't fan the fire, I have to deal with it, not you. bye.
[4:54:33 PM] Bela's Sister: you didn't tell me she didn't want one you thought I was talking about a sun bed
[4:54:43 PM] Bela's Sister: anyway, I hope the rst of you do better
[4:54:44 PM] Bela's Sister: bye
[4:55:02 PM] BLG: Now you are being an arse. It doesn't suit you.
[4:55:53 PM] Bela's Sister: well Bela you're always so negative you end up a) annoying me and
being the same
[4:57:40 PM] Bela's Sister: and actually, I was hoping that you really would do better as it's very disheartening to put a lot of effort - and expense - into something that is unwanted and stresses somebody out, when it was a) a thing she told me she wanted and
meant for her to relax on. Oh , the irony
[4:57:53 PM] BLG: Compare what I COULD be, and what I have to be and then tell me if you really have grounds t be annoyed with me.
[4:57:56 PM] *** BLG sent The Offer.jpg ***
[4:58:18 PM] Bela's Sister: I think you make things hard for yourself
[4:58:42 PM] Bela's Sister: you set your sights too high and want things you can't have
[4:58:59 PM] Bela's Sister: you should focus on getting well, doing things that make you happy and being positive
[4:59:26 PM] Bela's Sister: I've already told you I don't know why you're there if she makes you unhappy
[4:59:27 PM] BLG: And you do not? When I owned a huge house [Sister] I did not worry about a £200 flight bill.
[4:59:42 PM] BLG: I am here because I love her.
[4:59:43 PM] Bela's Sister: you offering to pay?
[5:00:05 PM] Bela's Sister: you are a very odd person, Bela. You make your choices and you live by them
[5:00:41 PM] Bela's Sister: which is what I try to do
[5:00:41 PM] BLG: If you could spare the time yes. I get 216 pounds a fortnight disability benefits but think this would be a wise investment. So yes, If you can spare the time I will pay.
[5:03:32 PM] Bela's Sister: I flew to London specifically to see her and am going again, specifically to see her on 26th May. You live down the road and don't go and see her - she tells me she has to come over to see you. I call her every day. I send her money. I happen to live over 1000 miles away and have 3 children that need me. I have offered her a home here. You can be very judgmental, and, do you know what? Given the choices you have made and the stresses you have caused, THAT doesn't suit you.
[5:09:53 PM] BLG: I really don't think most of you give me much credit. I don't make many choices [Sister], I suffer from a terrible illness that allows my life to be somewhere in the spectrum of 'bareley tollerable' to 'god kill me now'. An illness that gets worse by the day. Yes i know it is awful to be round me, but I have to be round 'me' every day.
I do the best I can with limited resources.
[5:12:34 PM] Bela's Sister: I never said it was awful to be around you. I just said that you make choices. I am truly sorry you are unwell, but you need to take your treatment seriously and get out and have interests. Staying at home will drive you mad, get out and do something that is not too stressful and makes you feel good. You need to cut ties with the life you had before - the big jobs and stress - and give a different life a choice. You're very clever and able, but you are clinging to things that are just not right for you.
[5:13:38 PM] Bela's Sister: You have endless energy, so why not do something that interests you and have a nice, rewarding (but not too challenging job) to give you a little more independence?
[5:14:34 PM] Bela's Sister: i.e. learn a completely new language or trade and do charitable work for a cause that interests you
[5:15:47 PM] BLG: That was all in the file I was trying to send you that you declined.
[5:16:13 PM] Bela's Sister: Ah, I was receiving another file
[5:16:26 PM] *** BLG sent The Offer.jpg ***
[5:16:28 PM] Bela's Sister: that I have to work on - but send again now as it's cleared
[5:18:10 PM] Bela's Sister: see, more sensible than I look!
[5:18:19 PM] Bela's Sister: boys back, got to feed them now
[5:18:22 PM] Bela's Sister: bye for now x
[5:18:26 PM] BLG: x